Selfgentleness

Radically accepting yourself as the most important person to consistently deserve your own gentleness.

Shift to a new perspective of you, that will support you from now on. No matter what life throws at you.

Foundational Practice: 

I'm here to help you find more ease & joy in your life.  

Selfgentleness is not a quick fix or just another course to follow (and then forget). It's a process-in-progress to slowly but steadily changing your perspective of yourself and how you live your life. 

It starts with setting a new habit to tune in and become aware of what you really need and want, every moment again, to then find your way in honoring that. It might take some time at first to create that new awareness, but once tuning in becomes part of your daily life, you'll notice a significant shift towards more ease, flow and joy in your life.

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Foundational practice

Pause.
Breathe.
Notice what’s happening within.

This is where Selfgentleness begins:
by simply making space to listen to your inner voice.


foundational practice

Let it be known.
Whatever you feel or need, let it exist.

Acknowledging is not fixing.
It’s saying, “I see this. I feel this. This matters.”


foundational practice

Now comes the step towards selfgentleness.
How can you respond in a way that cares for what you noticed?

This is where selfgentleness deepens:
In small, tender acts of honoring your needs.


case study

Linda’s First Step in Healing

After leaving a toxic relationship, Linda felt stuck and overwhelmed. She joined the class looking for even the smallest bit of hope. What she found was a subtle but powerful shift in perspective, one that opened her eyes to new possibilities.

That moment of connection gave her a sense of gratitude and courage. For Linda, selfgentleness became the very first step in healing her trauma.

WHAT i believe and know

You're already "good enough"

and I'll help you believe it too

It's time to stop fixing and  shaping yourself. I know you're a lifelong learner, just like me. But you've done enough work on yourself. Because there's a difference between pushing yourself forward towards yet another goal to achieve and finally feeling that you are already exactly right, just as you are.

And I know you understand this, cognitively. Because most of the time, you know this. But then... suddenly... something happens in your life. A loved one needs you (again), a difficult 'good-bye', an illness, too much stress at work and suddenly your inner critic is back. You feel like all your inner work was futile and you have to start all over again. 

If you're looking for a way to feel good enough, to find ease and joy, no matter what life throws at you...
Well hello dear one, I'm here to help.

Start Here

Free starter guide

Download our Free Selfgentleness Starter Guide and learn how to Tune in. Most people report a significant change in their perspective  after 30 days of Tuning In daily for just a minute or two. 

Explore my blog

Go to my Blog and read about how you can apply selfgentleness across different situations of your life. Each blog post offers insights and tips.

my membership

In Selfgentleness Academy we practice selfgentling. Every month new themes, coming with new practices, meditations, and a live group call with me. Explore the growing Selfgentleness library and practice selfgentleness until it's yours.

watch youtube

To get a taste of what happens in my Live Events for Insight Timer, you can listen to excerpts of my talks, or close your eyes and get guided in meditations and visualizations by me.

what they're saying:

“Femke’s voice and teachings helped me breathe again. So simple, yet exactly what I needed.”


— Jen

what they're saying:

“This daily course gave me tools to use, but didn’t take up a lot of time. I’ll definitely refresh when needed.”

— Barbara 

what they're saying:

“Femke is such a gifted teacher. I was able to go into deep memories and find self-love I forgot existed within myself.”

— Mark

what they're saying:

“I’ve started to feel a shift in my inner voice, and I love Femke’s gentle, guiding tone.”

— Nita

what they're saying:

“It is so difficult to be self-gentle. Everyone else came first. Now I am so tired. But this course... I have great hope now.”

— Jeannie

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Selfgentleness
Starter Guide

Start small. This Starter Guide offers the crucial 3 Steps to Rewire Your Mind, Find More Ease, Clarity, Confidence & More In Just A Few Minutes A Day.